I have loved you with an everlasting love. Jeremiah 31:3

I was 14. He was almost 18. It was my first "real" relationship. I remember the moment he said "I love you. And I've never said that to anyone before!" I believed him. He believed himself. We were happy. What else would we be?!

It lasted almost a year. An eternity as far as teenage relationships go! When it ended there was no amicable separation or catastrophic blowout. I saw him kissing someone else. He knew it and stopped calling. I was cast aside. His love for me had come to an end. Where was the happy ending every romantic movie, book, or fairy tale promised me? Was it my fault? Was I not lovable?

Romantic love. It seems like everyone wants it. It certainly is big business, but is it good business? Does it promise something it can’t deliver? Romantic love sells products, movies, and experiences. An entire TV channel is devoted to romantic movies! Every single one has a happy ending. But it doesn’t really happen, does it? You've been hurt by the fractured fairy tale, just as I have been. If we all know that "happily ever after" isn't reality, then what is it in us that cries out for love that lasts forever?

Experts recognize that the need to be loved is basic to every human being. If that is so, then there can only be one reason: We are God-wired for love. Why? Because you and I are made to be loved by Him. he has hard-wired us to want to be loved unconditionally, unceasingly, and unapologetically. The problem is that, as in so many other areas of life, we look for that need to be met in an earthly and natural way, rather than in a heavenly and supernatural way.

God is the only one who can love us unfailingly, unswervingly, and unconditionally. Married love is meant to reflect God’s love. It isn't meant to be an end in itself. "They lived happily ever after" isn't meant to be the end of the story. Marriage is not meant to meet our need for love. It is meant to give a picture of God’s love. However, it isn’t possible for us to love that way without God's empowerment. And for the record, it is possible for a single person to live a satisfied life in God. Fully loved and fully complete. They don't need marriage to make them happy and we should stop trying to fix them up! What we should do is encourage them in their experience of God's love. That's what they need most.

When Tom and I got married, we exchanged rings. Rings are part of a marriage ceremony as a symbol of God’s love — continuous. no beginning, no end, everlasting. I can’t remember the last time I took off my wedding ring. It truly has become a part of my hand. I can’t imagine my hand without it. Yet, I haven’t fully appreciated its purpose. Whenever I look at my ring, it isn’t just a symbol that I belong to Tom. It should remind me that my love for Tom, and his love for me, are meant to reflect God’s love. It doesn't just say that Tom loves me and that I love him. It says that God loves me unceasingly. Wow!

Tom and I have celebrated 35 years of marriage. What we say is that "Happily ever after is possible with the grace of God and a lot of hard work." It hasn't always been first in our minds, but we have understood that our relationship is meant to communicate the mystery of God's perfect love. We haven't always succeeded, yet God has poured out His grace on us. He has helped us learn to look to Him first, rather than to each other, to meet our deepest need for love. Maybe that has enabled us to enjoy each other more.

I don't know where you are today, dear friend. Single. Married. In a relationship. Divorced. Widowed. Your need for love has never and will never diminish. The hurt of broken and imperfect human relationships will always be a poor substitute for the love that only God can give you and me. As you and I look to Him for love first, He will give us the grace to love others the way He loves us. Isn't that the happiest way to live?

Key Thought: You are loved with a ceaseless love.

A Scripture to Consider: I have loved you with an everlasting love. Jeremiah 31:3

A YES Challenge: Have you been looking to a person for the love only God can give you? Ask God to help you look to Him and His love first. Allow Him to adjust your expectations in your human relationships.

Prayer: God, this isn't going to be easy, but I really want Your love first. I have been hurt by the expectation that a person would love me perfectly. Only You can do that. Forgive me for not looking to You first. Help me to adjust my thinking and receive your unceasing, unconditional love for me. And God, as I receive that love from You, help me learn to love others that way as well. I want to be a reflection of Your love in all my relationships. Amen.

September 12, 2026

This is Not Forever

“For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.” 2 Corinthians 4:17-18 NLT

As I tearfully opened the sodden boxes of our stored belongings, wondering what was ruined, a verse came to mind,

“Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” Matthew 6:19-21 NLT

We were temporarily living with my parents, and our stuff was stored in Tom’s parents' garage. They had a plumbing issue in their bathroom above the garage, causing a leak that soaked several of our boxes and other items, including our mattress. We weren’t sure what was salvageable.

That period of time was already difficult. We were waiting for a job to open up and unsure how long that would take, how long we would be living with my parents, how long our stuff would be stored. Both sets of parents had been patient, loving, and gracious. There was no one to blame for the water damage. Sometimes things just happen.

But when that verse popped into my brain, it completely changed my perspective on going through the damage. The tears didn’t stop. There was some mourning and disappointment. But at the same time, there was hope. This was temporary. These things were just things. What really mattered was how I responded. I could choose an eternal perspective. I could choose to treasure Christ more than an earthly possession.

As it turned out, very few of our things were unsalvageable, and insurance more than covered anything that was lost. But the eternal perspective I gained is a treasure that I still carry. That simple shift helped me through the three and a half years of living in the in-between.