Discover Your True Identity (Book Excerpt)

Discovering your God-given identity is important for setting good, God-centered goals. Discovering your God-given identity starts with unlearning the past. It’s like a dance. You tentatively begin to attempt the steps. It takes some time to find the beat and the rhythm. There may be some missteps at first. But once you find it, your movement becomes fluid and graceful. It’s fun for you and beautiful for others to see. Discovering your true identity is worth the effort of unlearning past patterns and finding your natural rhythm.

You learned a lot through your past experiences. Things that were said to you by important adults in your childhood adhered to your identity like stray scraps of tape. They may not be immediately visible, but they are still stuck where they don’t belong. Discovering your true identity involves discovering the lies and unsticking them. What someone once said has become how you think about yourself.

It takes some prayerful searching to discover where they are stuck. Removing them may be more difficult than it seems, but it is worth your effort. And remember, you aren’t alone in this process. God Himself walks through it with you by His Holy Spirit. He will reveal the lies and help you to replace them with His truth.

You might also want to bring a trusted friend into this process. Let them know the lies that you are unlearning and the truths that you want to absorb into who you are. Just knowing that there is someone else you can talk to makes a world of difference.

Chosen Child, Not the Consolation Prize

You and I have been chosen by God. That is the fact of the matter. How you feel about it is not really that important. Our current culture relies more on feelings than on fact. Feelings overshadow so many decisions. They shape perspectives. They inform how new stories are presented and how ads are crafted. Feelings are changeable. Facts are not.

John Adams, one of our founding fathers, is quoted as saying, “Facts are stubborn things.” Facts do not change with feelings. Facts are what they are and that is all. They can’t be prodded and poked and made to adjust. Facts are reality. Feelings are shadow.

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