How to Win the War Within (Repost)

August 15, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

'Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. ' Colossians 3:1-2

You’ve left the room, but the argument is not over. Your thoughts are stuck in a loop. The same hurtful exchange of words flashes across your mind over and over and over. You can’t seem to reset your inner replay. All the emotions that should have stayed in that room follow you everywhere you go. Hurt and anger continue to shout in your ears. Your heart rate is through the roof. Hot anger rises in your flushed face. The war is far from over.

Your inner screening room then begins playing out possible outcomes for a future exchange. You don’t really know what will happen, but your mind is already strategizing your next offensive in the war of words. Your emotions rise and fall with every imagined interaction. When you hurl an imagined barb at your intended target proud and triumphant vindictiveness rises to the surface. You feel all the emotions of a situation that hasn’t really happened and then you carry that resentment into the next conversation which turns into another altercation. Your emotions have become attached to an unreality. Nothing actually happened before you walked into the room. Do you truly want to spend your emotional energy on something that isn’t even real?

A - C = P: Anxiety - Control = Peace (Repost)

August 8, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

'Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. ‘Philippians 4:6-7 MSG

I was listening to a podcast when I heard a quote that brought so much clarity, I couldn’t get it out of my head. Here it is: “Anxiety results from wanting to control something God has not given us to control.” I didn’t remember the name of the person or why she was on the podcast, but what she said made so much practical sense. (I looked it up later. So, if you are interested, it was Joanna Weaver’s podcast, The Living Room, and the guest was Sharon Hodde Miller, author of The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, the Anxiety It Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises Us.) As I pondered her statement, a formula took shape in my brain, “A – C = P,” Anxiety – Control = Peace. Easy to remember and a goal worth aiming for.

Anxiety is something we all experience. Anxiety steals peace and commands focus. Whether it’s something personal about your family, or a job, or something broader like politics and the world situation, anxiety creeps up behind us, leaps upon us and gets us in a stranglehold. Ever feel that way?

Your brain goes in circles, trying to resolve something you are powerless to resolve. You can’t sleep and every waking moment is consumed with mental and practical fruitless attempts to solve the problem. Suddenly, it seems like nothing else is happening in your life. What started as a thought becomes a huge shadow. What do you do?

When God Trusts You with Pain

August 1, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5 NIV

God has trusted you with this challenge. Life may not be the way you expected. What you dreamed of seems to have crashed and burned. It’s hard to envision what the future might look like.

And the pain. Well, the pain may be unlike any you’ve ever experienced before. It’s so deep and unfathomable. At times, it pours out. Other times, no one knows it’s there. But for you, it’s always there. Always under the surface. The pain doesn’t go away. You learn to live with chronic pain. It becomes part of you.

That certainly is not the life you envisioned, is it? A life where pain becomes part of you. But sometimes, that is the life God trusts you with. The key to accepting that kind of life is trust.

You can’t trust yourself to handle this. You and I must trust God when He allows pain to become part of us. We must trust what we know of His character, His goodness, His love.

Ultimately, what God wants from you and me when He allows pain to become part of us is to represent Him well in our world. To show that He is trustworthy, even in painful circumstances. To demonstrate what it looks like to walk in faith, because faith trusts what it can’t see. (Hebrews 11:6)

You and I can’t see God. We can’t see His plan. We can’t see the why. But if we believe that He is good and loving, then we must believe that He has a purpose in our pain. He has trusted us to live with trust. He has trusted us to represent Him well, not in spite of the pain, but because of the pain.

Dear friend, I don’t know your pain. Proverbs says that each heart knows its own pain. (Proverbs 14:10) But I do know that you didn’t ask for it, and it’s human to wish it would go away and to try to find ways to make it better.

What I believe God has said to me is to accept the pain as a gift. Not to just accept it as part of life, but to accept it as His gift of trust to me. When I do that, my pain becomes a vehicle to bring Him glory. And isn’t bringing Him glory a goal worth pursing?

Key Question: What do I do with the pain of life?

A Scripture to Consider: “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5 NIV

A YES Challenge: Prayerfully consider what it would mean to accept your pain as a gift.

Prayer: Father, life has not turned out the way I expected. There are some dreams I had that will never come to pass. You know the disappointments I face. It wasn’t supposed to be this way, but this is the way it is. Help me learn to accept this pain as a gift of trust from You. I am not sure how to do it. Yet, my greatest dream is to live a life that honors You no matter what. Help me to do that well. Amen.

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Trusting the Leader

July 25, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.” Psalms 32:8 NIV

How do you handle not having the answers to questions about your life?

What is next?
How long will this take?
How is this all going to work out?

We all face those kinds of questions, and they are definitely not easy to grapple with. If you are like me, you come up with a list of possible scenarios. My brain is always trying to answer questions or understand the reason why something is happening. I guess it gives me a sense of control or security to feel like I understand. Key word: feel.

No matter how much I may feel like I understand the reason why a season is difficult and full of questions, the truth is that I don’t see the whole picture, so I don’t truly understand. But I sure like feeling like I do!

Our recent trip to Alaska allowed me to grapple with some lack of control and insecurity when we embarked on a chosen excursion called Dog Sled Summer Camp. Trainers bring the dogs to the Alaskan mountains where the temperature stays cold enough to keep them comfortable while they train to pull the sleds in the winter. Their agreement with the cruise company and tourist purchases like ours help fund the training camp.

The excursion involved a van trip on a winding mountain road with no guardrails up to the camp where the dogs would pull us in a wheeled cart as part of their training.

Insecurity and lack of control: No guardrails and a steep drop-off. A bear in the road brought the van to a halt for a while on the way up!

As we arrived, the camp full of Alaskan huskies saw us and knew that a run was coming. They barked excitedly, “Pick me! Pick me!”

Insecurity and lack of control: No say in the speed of the cart. Bears in the woods around us. Wondering if the dogs would stay on the road as the cart seemed to veer off to the side as they ran.

Panning for Gold: How to Trust God When You Can’t See the Answer

July 18, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

“I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalms 27:13-14 NIV

On our recent trip to Alaska, one of the excursions we chose included panning for gold. The description declared every participant would leave with “guaranteed gold.” We were skeptical, but it was intriguing. Why not? It sounded like a fun experience.

We traveled from the port by bus and arrived at a tent camp, something like what the gold rush prospectors would have experienced. After a brief theatrical presentation, one of the actors led the group over to waist-high troughs filled with water, silt, gravel…and guaranteed gold. We were instructed to take a pan. He then described the process of dipping the pan through the water, lifting some of the silt and gravel, and carefully tilting the pan, allowing the tiny real gold flecks to remain behind as the water carried the rest out. He assured us that if we trusted the process, the gold would be heavier than everything else and would most definitely remain in the pan. At that point, he showed us how to partially fill a small zip-lock bag with water, pick up a tiny fleck on a wet finger, and transfer it into the bag to take home as a souvenir. So, we each began our attempts to pan out that guaranteed gold.

Tom was next to me and, before too long, was transferring several tiny flecks of gold into his little bag. Although I heard what the instructor told us, it was difficult for me to make it happen. I felt awkward and uncertain. It didn’t come easily. I heard what was said but wasn’t sure how to do it. I quickly grew frustrated. What was fun about this?

I handed my pan to Tom, and shortly after, he was transferring more tiny flecks of guaranteed gold from my pan into his little bag. The guide had said more than once to “trust the process.” But trusting the process took more patience than I had. So, I stopped trying. Tom understood the process, had the patience, and successfully retrieved all the little flecks of gold from his pan and mine.

What does panning for gold have to do with trusting God when you can’t see the answers?

Faith in Uncertain Times

July 11, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

“By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going. By faith he made his home in the promised land like a stranger in a foreign country; he lived in tents, as did Isaac and Jacob, who were heirs with him of the same promise. For he was looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God.” Hebrews 11:8-10 NIV

“What does Scripture say? “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness.” Romans 4:3 NIV

How do you say YES to God when you don’t know what you are saying YES to?

We all face uncertain seasons in life. But the unspoken truth we must grapple with is that every moment is uncertain. If we are honest with ourselves, we can admit that not one of us knows what the next moment holds. Yet, there are times when we are simply more aware of that uncertainty. We feel it and it unsettles us. That’s where Tom and I are right now.

What is our first reaction when we feel unstable? We search for stability. We attempt to find something we can control. It’s okay to admit it. The desire to control the unknown is human. Ask Adam and Eve.

And what did they find? The only One who controls the unknown is God Himself. And He is not willing to give up that control to you and me because He can see everything and we can’t. That is the simple unsettling fact. No matter how much we want to know the unknown, we can’t.

But: “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the Rock eternal.” Isaiah 26:3-4 NIV

So, how do you and I keep our minds focused on God and trust Him? How do we say YES when we don’t know what we are saying YES to?

Seeing Future Freedom

July 4, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart. In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood.” Hebrews 12:1-4 NIV

Wherever you are right now is the result of someone else’s faith.

Your parents, as imperfect as they may have been, sacrificed to help you grow.

Our spiritual forefathers forged a path for faith.

Our American forefathers forged a path for the freedom America is known for.

None of this is perfect.

None of them were perfect.

Only one is perfect.

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”Romans 5:8 NIV
“…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12:2 NIV

Dear friend, what you have now cost someone something, even if they didn’t do it perfectly.

Your parents. The founders of our country. Your church leaders.

They all have added something to your life worth having. Regardless of their mistakes, their sacrifices have enriched you.

Who are you sacrificing for?

Are you willing to pay the price without seeing the result?

Living a Christ-centered life is not easy, but it is worth it.

The cost of living for Jesus purchases your eternity, yes.

But it also clears a path for those in your circle of influence.

Your sacrifice lights the way for them to follow your example.

You may never see the impact of your sacrifice, just as our forefathers could not see the future we live in now.

But your life matters.

You can make it count by committing to the cost.

It’s going to be worth it.

My book The YES Adventure: Transform Your Life with One Word is almost a year old! Check it out or encouragement, inspiration, and more about God-centered goal-setting. Please leave a review on Amazon! That will help other people find the book and receive guidance and encouragement in their God-centered goal setting.

If you are stuck and would like a partner to help you process your next step, I’d love to help. Schedule a 30-minute complimentary coaching session here.

When Your Hopes are Disappointed

June 27, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

“We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.” Romans 5:3-5 NLT

How do you handle the disappointment when something you looked forward to does not happen? Do you let it ruin your day? Do you spew anger all over everyone around you? Do you blame?

It’s a small thing in the big scheme of life, but I was really looking forward to the train ride from Talkeetna to Whittier, Alaska. We traveled in a glass-domed train car, enabling us to absorb the scenic views of the Alaskan countryside as we transitioned from the land portion of our trip onto the cruise ship. A car host was assigned to each car. Their job was to make our trip enjoyable, to tell us what we were seeing along the way and to point out the Alaskan wildlife. Bears, moose, caribou, bald eagles, and Dall sheep, a unique species of wild sheep. Tom and I had watched a promotional video for the train ride when we were exploring the idea of an Alaska trip. The train ride was the bait that hooked us on this itinerary. We envisioned a peaceful, beautiful trip that would be one of the high points of our journey through Alaska. It turned out to be a low point.

The visual experience was all the promotional video promised — minus the bright sunshine. The day of our trip happened to be the only day we had rain in the whole ten days in Alaska, but the views were still spectacular. However, rather than a peaceful ride through the countryside, our trip was more like a visit to a bar full of raucous sports fans. People in other train cars came to call our car “the loud car.” Our young train host encouraged those who were drinking and rowdy. That was his idea of fun. Eventually, he stopped giving any narration along the way. The noise was out of control, spoiling the experience for those of us who had looked forward to a peaceful enjoyment of the natural beauty.

A Pivot - Enjoy a Few Alaska Photos

June 20, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

What do you do when your plan falls through? Do you pivot, pout, or have patience?

Thankfully, God has helped me get past pouting…most of the time. This post is a pivot. Next post will be about having patience when there’s nothing you can do.

I’ve got a post in process for you about how preparing my heart in advance helped me deal with the unexpected on our trip, but I’ve been sick the last few days and need to give myself some more recovery time.

Enjoy a few more Alaska photos!

I kept taking pictures trying to capture the magnificent expanse of snow-capped mountains. It’s impossible!

Beautiful blue-green Marjerie Glacier in Glacier Bay National Park. Kudos to Tom for this beautiful photo. Stunning!

A picture-perfect day in Ketchikan!

Thanks for your patience.

Blessings, friend!

Preparing Your Heart Matters

June 13, 2026 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV

I’ve heard it said that when you travel, don’t forget to pack your patience. There were a few things that happened on our trip to Alaska where that was the case.

If you follow this blog, you’ll remember my post from May 23, Don’t Sweat the What-ifs. I shared some Scriptures I was “packing” to prepare for the unexpected. I am so glad that I did.

Here’s a quote from that post that describes the most important preparation I did:

Trust is the most important thing I can pack. Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT

So, here’s one story from our trip. We booked our flights through Princess EZ-Air. That way if anything went wrong along the way, Princess Cruises would have to get us to our destination. There was no easy way to get from Syracuse, NY, to Fairbanks, AK, to start our journey. We flew from Syracuse to Washington, DC, to Denver, CO, to Fairbanks. It was a long journey, but there were no issues along the way.

However, I was a bit concerned about our return flights from Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada.