To Mom and Dad - 60 Years And Going Strong!

September 4, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

If you are a regular reader of my posts, forgive me while i depart from my regular routine. Normally, I talk to you, but today I want to talk to someone else: My Mom and Dad. On September 2, 2021 my mom and dad celebrated 60 years of marriage! Unfortunately, like many people in the Northeast they spent the day cleaning up from the deluge deposited on us by the remnants of Hurricane Ida, but that doesn’t minimize the importance of the day. 60 years! Such an accomplishment deserves some extra attention, don’t you think? So, if you’ll indulge me for a few minutes, I want to talk to Mom and Dad, to thank them for their example and share a few things I’ve learned from them. Maybe you’ll learn a few things, too.

Mom and Dad, as I often have said, I have the unique privilege of having celebrated every single one of your anniversaries with you. Being born one week before your very first anniversary makes me an anniversary gift, right? Of course, I don’t remember much about the early years, but I know I was there! Now that Tom and I are getting ready to celebrate 35 years of marriage, there are some observations I can make about your achievement. One thing I know after 35 years of experience is that you don’t get to 60 years of marriage without some bumps in the road. You don’t make it to 60 years without some moments when quitting seems like the best solution. You don’t feel close every moment for 60 years. So what has made the difference? How did you make it to 60 years and what can other married couples learn from you? Actually, what can anyone learn from you about how to make a relationship last?

Why Or What?

August 28, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭30:21‬ ‭NIV‬‬

I'm not usually one to panic. I'm usually the steady one, but not in the story I am about tell you! How do you handle a season of unknowing? Do you scramble to figure out what is happening? I often feel like if I can understand why something is happening, then I can be at peace, but that is not always possible and it wasn’t possible in this instance. Maybe you have a had a similar experience.

Tom and I were on a cruise to celebrate our thirtieth anniversary. I know, a cruise sounds luxurious, but this was the first time we had ever experienced seas so rough that it was sometimes frightening. Not only that, the motion was making Tom feel so sick that much of the time all he was up to doing was lying in our cabin to rest or watch movies. This morning Tom was hoping to feel better so we decided to leave the cabin for a while and let the steward attend to it. I had to finish something, so Tom went ahead of me up to the relatively quiet lounge with a panoramic ocean view where we expected to find a place to read for a while. When I went up to the lounge a few minutes later, I couldn't find him.

He Sees It All!

August 21, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

There’s been a lot going on in my life this week. Yours, too! It’s good to know that God sees it all, that He is present with us in the midst of everything. No detail of my life or yours escapes Him.

So, because my brain space is limited to come up with words of encouragement this week, I am going to give you some words of encouragement from the Scripture.

Be blessed, Dear Friend!

Psalm 139
(The Message version)

“God, investigate my life; get all the facts firsthand. I’m an open book to you; even from a distance, you know what I’m thinking..You know when I leave and when I get back; I’m never out of your sight. You know everything I’m going to say before I start the first sentence.

To Experience Joy, Transform Obligation To Offering

August 14, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

“But I will rejoice even if I lose my life, pouring it out like a liquid offering to God, just like your faithful service is an offering to God. And I want all of you to share that joy. Yes, you should rejoice, and I will share your joy.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:17-18‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Do you ever feel like you are just going through the motions of life, even a Christian life? You get up, do what you need to do, go to bed and then do it all over again? You go to church, you serve, but it all seems so empty? I have been through those seasons as well. There are times in our lives when we have been through a great loss - of a loved one or through trials - and just getting through each day is a miracle. That is not the kind of season we are talking about here. The question I want you to consider is this: Have you lost the joy of living for God?

Daily life can sometimes cloud the light of life in Christ. What I mean is, we get so focused on doing the tasks and checking the boxes that we miss why we do it. At least, I have.

At the heart of Christian life is not religion, what I define as “human attempts to reach God,” but a relationship. Not obligations to fulfill, but an offering to be presented. Are you following God from a place of obligation or are you making the choice to offer your life to Him on a daily basis? My dear friend, when you choose to make your life an offering, I can guarantee that you will be filled with joy. I want that for you!

Here are some things to remember that will help you transform your obligation to offering.

Your Race Matters

August 7, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:14-16‬ ‭NLT‬‬

As I write this I am sitting in my hotel room in Orlando, Florida where my husband and I have been attending a conference for ministers from our fellowship, the Assemblies of God. Every two years ministers gather to be encouraged and equipped and to vote on leadership and resolutions relative to how our fellowship operates in the world. There are thousands of ministers attending and even more students participating in the National Fine Arts festival that is taking place at the same time. A highlight of the event is to join with others in worship in a 9000 seat auditorium filled with families who serve Jesus with all their hearts. Those are moments that refresh and renew our commitment to run our race well.

When the apostle Paul wrote to his friends in Philippi he encouraged them to tenaciously tend to their faith so that on the day of Christ’s return he would know that his race was not in vain. What race was Paul running? The race of faith and the work of passing on that faith to others. The ministers present here are all called to the same race. And so are you, my friend! Our goal is to be faithful and to help others be faithful until the very end. So, how do you and I do that? It isn’t complicated, but it is challenging.

What Words Matter?

July 31, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:14-16‬ ‭NLT‬‬

My mother has mentioned that she would hear me practicing words in my crib before she heard me use them in public. Imagine! Baby Me practicing speech! I guess that even as a baby I wanted to use words well! I suppose that God put a love of words in me from the very beginning. Even in my crib, I had a sense that words have power and a desire to use them carefully.

This world is overwhelmed with words and not every person using them is aware of their power. Words can hurt, help, comfort, criticize, correct, encourage, berate, alienate, bring closer. Words, spoken or written, have tremendous power in people’s lives. How careful are you with this potent tool? What words matter to you?

In the swirl of words that pour past us on a daily basis, from the mouths of people or through the screens of our phones, what words are you listening to and how are they affecting you? What words matter to you?

Do You Shine?

July 24, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:14-16‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I make a point of not checking the news first thing in the morning. Doesn’t it seem like every headline screams, “This world is a mess!” The evil of this broken world and the propensity of broken people to intentionally hurt each other is present in almost every news story, written in bold, black letters. News headlines set a negative tone for my day right off the bat and I have decided to spend my waking minutes orienting myself toward God. It’s hard enough to wake up and focus on God. I don’t need the news to distract me. What about you?

Once my eyes begin to focus and the caffeine kicks in, I want my first thoughts to remind me of who God is, who I am because of Him and how I am supposed to live. In his letter to his friends in Philippi, the apostle Paul tells the Philippian believers to “live clean, innocent lives as children of God.”(Philippians 2:14) His challenge to his friends is the challenge for you and me as well: Live, clean innocent lives and shine in a dark world.

What does that look like anyway? What does it mean to live a “clean, innocent” life as a child of God? What makes the children of God so different from other people that they seem to “shine”?

The Other Pandemic: Are You Safe?

July 17, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:14-16‬ ‭NLT‬‬

You are standing in the break room at your office and you hear it. It’s a dull roar that never really departs. The boss is awful. That co-worker is a pain. The government is a mess. Her husband is an idiot. His wife is a fool. Their children are annoying. Almost every word that comes out of your co-workers’ mouths are complaints. No one seems to have anything good to say. Everyone is finding fault with someone. There is an epidemic of complaint.

It’s easy to get caught up in it, isn’t it? Why is that? Because the truth is that a Christ-less world is a mess and Christ-less people are selfish and hurtful. What’s worse is that sometimes the most Christ-less people are people who claim to know Him, but their words….Oh, their words swell with the venom of complaint.

I don’t think of myself as a complainer. I pride myself in being careful with words, but sometimes…ugh! The pandemic of complaint has touched me as well. Are you a complainer? If you are, are you willing to take a hard listen to yourself and determine to make a change? What’s wrong with complaining anyway? Why should you overcome it?

When You Can’t Find Your Want-To

July 10, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I was with you. And now that I am away, it is even more important. Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear. For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:12-13‬ ‭NLT

I don’t know about you, but sometimes my struggle begins with just wanting to do the right thing. I can correctly assess the situation. I see what it is that I need to do, the person I need to speak with, the action that I need to take, but then I feel stuck and like failure is my future. I just can’t seem to make myself want to take the next step. Does that ever happen to you?

Years ago I discovered this verse and it was like an electric current of motivation. I realized that I don’t have to find the want-to when it comes to doing what is right. Just like every other important thing in life, all I need to do is rely on God. I hear you. “What are you talking about?”, you say. Let me show you.

Who Do You Want To Be In The Post-Pandemic Future?

July 3, 2021 Cathleen Zahradnik

Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I was with you. And now that I am away, it is even more important. Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear. For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:12-13‬ ‭NLT

I want he best for you. I really do. I want you to enjoy a fulfilling and satisfying life. I want you to know the joy of living whole-heartedly for Jesus and the deep sense of destiny and purpose that grows out of that commitment. That’s what I want for you, but I also know that there are a multitude of distractions. A cacophony of voices overwhelming you every morning, noon and night. Voices telling you that fulfillment and satisfaction come through a perfect life and offering you all kinds of ways to make your life perfect. Buy more stuff. Fix your looks. Find a new relationship because the current one will take too much effort to improve. Make more money. Etc. Etc.

Right now, when life is beginning to return to a somewhat normal pace and familiar activities are beginning to resume, it’s a good time to evaluate what you want your life to be like going forward. In many ways you get to start fresh. Sure, a lot of things continued during lockdown, but a lot of things didn’t. What do you want to bring forward with you post-COVID and what do you want to stay back in the days before 2020? Now is a good time to evaluate how you want to live for what matters and let go of what doesn’t. Who do you want to be in the post-pandemic future?